Exiting The Loop of Suffering Monday Morning Check-In Post
How Are You??!!
Tomorrow Pluto moves into Aquarius and will stay there until 2043. Our world will be remarkably changed by then. What these changes will be and how they will come about is up to us. We are most powerful in our response to our current circumstances.
It’s a revolutionary energy, Pluto in Aquarius, a revolution for the good of humanity. Let this revolution be a peaceful revolving of our systems. We have suffered enough.
The sayings go:
“No pain no gain”
“What does not kill you makes you stronger”
”Christ died for your sins”
”You incarnated here to experience this”
”You knew what you were getting into before you arrived”
And on and on, creating a loop of suffering, so much so that not only have we been programmed to believe we must suffer to grow but that suffering is necessary therefore it’s GOOD. What a sick cycle of sadomasochism we have engaged in here for eons.
“Please hurt me so I can grow,” needs to go into the garbage disposal of history.
The first time I heard it, the idea that the suffering I experienced was my choice, I felt something click. That click was the uncoupling of my mental body from my emotional body, an unplugging of my compassion, and a deactivation of my critical thinking skills.
It was not good.
My mental body reveled in the fantasy that I was somehow more empowered than I thought I was before this revelation.
“Ah! There was meaning to my suffering! It made me who I was!” the script went. And yes, it is a script, just one more piece of dogma in a world filled with religious, spiritual, and new age ideology, each the same as the next, just using slightly different language, channeled or not, it’s still a script.
I would then parrot this script for years as a good little girl embedded in the new age world of channels, even as the voice in the back of my head, the human voice, the compassionate one would question, “Was it really your choice?” and even more to the point, “How is suffering ever of any use?”
“Yes! Yes, it was!” I would argue, aligning myself with a rudimentary understanding of karma, a tit-for-tat-like application, that somewhere else in some other reality I was the abuser therefore I deserved the abuse I received in this life. And the ultimate form of self-betrayal, “It made me more compassionate, the abuse.”
It did not make me more compassionate. It did make me more withdrawn and selfish, grabbing for the little bits of love that came my way, holding onto them, not wanting to share anything, and creating suspicion of everyone and everything around me (see the flourishing of conspiracy theories as an example of this harm, I was certainly prone to them for quite some time).
One of my lowest points was in late December of 2004. As I watched the news about the Indian Ocean earthquake that triggered the tsunami that took the lives of over 225,000 humans along with countless other beings in other forms, my first thought to alleviate my feelings about the horror playing out on the screen in front of my eyes and filling the collective emotional ethers was, “Well, they knew they were going to experience this before they incarnated.”
I am deeply ashamed of this moment. My inability to apply any level of compassion back then shocks me today.
The sociopathy in the new age world is very evident right now as many have run to the Trump camp, shouting, “I’m here for my Happy Meal!”, supporting him and his nazism. Ideas like, “You create it all before you get here,” allow for this kind of mass delusion, that the suffering he will bring is to be expected and will serve an ultimate positive end. MAHA! MAGA! Blah, blah, blah.
Suffering begets more suffering.
The abused become abusers.
It is healing and then the application of love that creates growth.
“I am so sorry this happened to you. It was not your fault,” is what I was trained to say in my 20s as a substance abuse prevention counselor on how to respond to a child telling me they had been abused.
For years I desired to relieve suffering by supporting the idea that my suffering on some level was my choice, therefore so was everyone else’s. I am reverting to what the younger me knew to be true.
The abuse you experienced was not your fault, and I am so sorry this happened to you. You were abused because you crossed paths with a perpetrator.
The outcome of this election is not your fault and I am so sorry that this has happened to us. May Pluto moving into Aquarius activate more compassion in the heart centers of us all and enable us to see the abusers for who they are, abused children turned sociopaths in grown-up human perpetrator bodies. Moving forward, may we elect healed beings who support us from a place of love and care. May we each do this for ourselves and each other as well. In the end, they are just people, our elected representatives. May we bring our better angels forward to change the external reflection. It’s an action we can take in response to the circumstances that have currently been thrust upon us.
How are you??!! Please let me know in the comment section.
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Hi Nora,
Thank you for writing this! Thank you for sharing your process and potent insights. Yes, let us mass exodus the loop of suffering. I appreciate the clarity. Trusting my knowing over the years and my own personal revelations has helped me so much. And they usually went against the popular religious and new age confines.
I can look at my personal experiences with divorcing the narcissitic personality disordered men and see how this is all going down in the collective. They don't die easy. They don't go away. They up the ante. And blame everyone. Watching how many are falling in line with the abuser is sickening. But not surprising. It is the old way, the past. I see a part of the collective grasping to appease the abusive daddy and stay in bed with the perpetrator. If only...not me...If I am better, more holy, enlightened...I will be saved by that which seeks to destroy me.
Pluto in Aquarius is indeed process oriented. I choose the process of as much love and joy as possible. Shedding the ways in which the dysfunctional patriarchy had a hold of me. Guilt, shame, victim blaming. At least we now have concepts and words for what we are no longer agreeing to. NO to any and all shaming and blaming of the victimized and abused. Yes to calling out the perpetrators and holding firm with whoever may be with you. I lost most of my family and friends, new agers as well as I called out the abuse. It was not easy. Yet it was so liberating! xo Love you
Hi Nora! When I discovered the book, "Heal Your Body" in the late 1970s, I thought, “Wow, this all seems okay.” But something about it didn’t sit right with me—it felt like it placed blame on the person for having the issue. That approach didn’t resonate with me, though I did appreciate some of the affirmations. I believe that the author, Louise Hay, was, in her own way, taking baby steps toward evolving out of the paradigm that suggests we create our negative experiences for our own good. However, she still seemed to have one foot in the blame game.
Now, all these years later, I’ve developed a different way of looking at things. When people come to me asking for help, I say, “Geez, that sucks that such-and-such happened. It really did happen, and you didn’t deserve that! I’m so sorry. It seems like compassion is what’s needed here.”
I also extend this same kindness to myself. I give that part of me—a specific version of myself or just me as a whole—a big, metaphorical hug and acknowledgment. To me, that’s love.
At 67 years old, I marvel at how times have changed. No one spoke this way when I was a child. But now, people like you are bringing these conversations to the forefront, and I think it’s such an important shift. The age of Aquarius. Love you Nora and thank you again.