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Feb 26Liked by Nora Herold

HI Nora! this was so great for me to read right now (and btw venus was square jupiter on saturday as well as the full moon - lots of lovely expanded feelings!) My partner and I are having home uncertainty issues as well, and the reminder to acknowledge that we are in the void and find, if not comfort there, then at least some ease with the process, is comforting!

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Thank you, Lindsey. Yes! I knew there was another aspect contributing and just forgot to look up what it was. Wishing you all the best as you make your way. It is so challenging to be housing insecure.

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Beautiful magic and letting go. When I moved to Canada from a place I had lived for 18 years, it was all the little goodbyes that got to me. The ones I kept inside, like I won't see the women at the thrift store anymore, or the people in the Post Office, or the check out people at the grocery store. All the people that we don't really know but interact with on a regular basis - all those relationships are significant parts of our circles and my heart was breaking and opening in so many ways. The BIG goodbbyes and the small ones. Wishing you and Jon many blessings in this transitional time.

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Thank you so much, Leilah. This is so beautiful and completely relatable.

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Feb 26Liked by Nora Herold

My housing is secure, but I am dealing with a different kind of letting go. I love how you highlighted the way letting go of things makes room for the creation of new beauty. I'm having great difficulty moving forward since my husband's death. I have done almost nothing to clean the house since he transitioned in December, and last week I realized it was because I don't want to make this a home without him in it. I finally washed the casserole dishes I used to make cornbread dressing for Christmas and sobbed for a good 10 minutes after. It's as if I'm watching my life with him recede in the rearview window instead of driving the car. But now I've gotten notice that my annual inspection by the housing authority is on March 14, so I've got to find a way to get myself moving. Fortunately, I have a therapy appointment in exactly one hour, and my therapist is wonderful.

I wish you continued magic as you navigate this transition in your life.

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I so understand this holding and doing this at the pace that serves you. This is a very different kind of loss, but when our first kitty died, I left all of her belongings exactly as they were, food dishes, litter box, etc for almost a month. Sending you love. I am glad you have the support you need.

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Hi Nora,

Many continuous blessings to you and Jon.

Love reading how things fall into place, for all involved. Magic

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Thank you so much.

Love and blessings right back to you

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Feb 26·edited Feb 26Liked by Nora Herold

Hi Nora, what a catchy title.~~~~~

How am I? I had a weird dream early this morning, I was at a strange Scientology gathering ( no I have never been to one ) and I wanted to leave but I lost my cell phone and handbag, wallet. I tried to figure out what to do. It was anxiety-provoking. I think I better stop listening to podcasts about cults and conspiracy people before bedtime. I have this dream hangover, that I have to FOAL my way out. I have 5 friends coming, great loving, lovely friends from Vermont, that we have known since 1977. 4 will be in an airbnb, and I'm watching how concerned I am that I have gained weight, and gotten rather unambitious about exercise, a different version of me that they will be hugging. So again, working on loving myself, my body, me. We have our granddog today, full of sweetness and love, like a bit of magic in our house.

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Thank you for your honest share. I so love your realness mixed in with your magic.

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Feb 27Liked by Nora Herold

I was thinking of you all day on Saturday as I did my taxes instead of coming to visit. The right choice but not my preferred one! It sounds like it was a magical day. I'm so glad. (And I'm extra glad S got the four directions wall art!)

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Thank you. I understand that choice.

Much Love

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Feb 27Liked by Nora Herold

Once again this resonates with me 100%! Thank you for sharing your journey in the liminal!

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You're so welcome. Sending you love

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This is beautiful and reminds me why I long to live in a neighborhood again rather than in wooded isolation... your story is reverse Stone Soup. <3 It reminds me of when I gave almost everything away before moving from Topanga to Maine. I even gave away family heirlooms, and far from being a loss, it felt beautiful and liberating and light. I may do it agian.

And I think I missed an update -- have you found another place to live? Apologies if I'm not as caught up as I thought I was. It's been a bit of a strange time over here.

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It is liberating to release it all. We'll be selling more and then donating anything that remains with the exception for Jon's studio equipment, most of our clothes, our Vitamix, and a few other household and personal items.

Our plan at the moment is to move back into the apartment building in Chicago that we moved out of twenty years ago when we left for California. It's owned by people who are like family to us and they have a gorgeous apartment open in their three flat. We could be there for a short time or a long time, at this point we won't make a decision about how long we will stay until we get there and feel it out.

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Awww thank you so much for writing about the magic unfolding through your lives at this time. I smiled through your story and imagined it in my mind’s eye as I read.

I love reading your experience of following your intuition and how that then unfolds.

I really appreciate hearing about those ‘living paths’ the magical actions experienced along the way.

I’m reading that when you/one allow more space, I guess less angst and figuring how to do, or what to do, or where will I find this, but allowing that to come in to your life; it shows up, the magic unfolds.

Sounds really amazing. Moving truly sucks, but you will get rid of those things that no longer serve you, as you know already.

It’s a weird phenomenon about moving where everyone gets emotional that you’ll be gone even if you weren’t very close. I remember thinking, why am I moving?

Thank you 💚❤️💚❤️💚❤️

February has been the absolute worst month for me. I’ve been in extreme pain for most of it working through back problems, seeing the best caring Chiropractor 2x a week and accepts what Medicare gives him because he would want his mother to have that care ❤️.

The cold months, even though it was 84 yesterday, absolutely suck very bad for my body. I need a warm climate year round. I just do. I am ready.

I ended up in urgent care two days ago and was told, I have a very bad uti. What? Really? No wonder I didn’t know.

I had a back that wouldn’t stay in place, just started getting relief after 3 weeks, then a uti.

I end up at the ER that night in excruciating pain (which got worse that day) without the ability to step or move a muscle without yelling every time.

The dr gives me a CAT scan and tells me I’m full of poop, and I really don’t have a UTI WTF? 🤬 the urgent care hasn’t returned my call…. More work. I don’t know who is correct, but I’m taking the dang antibios.

He spent such little time with me, talked with me barely at all even as I had the nurse bring him back in as he discharged me without talking to me.

Back, UTI, poop. He didn’t care. Here’s your diagnosis, bye bye.

It was a horrible day.

Then a whole bunch of kindness 💚❤️

I needed a ride home for hospital at 2:30 am because I came by ambulance. No taxis-they’re dead I guess.

Ubers? Not a one but they took the charge and cxld the ride. I have to call my bank again.

I called the sheriffs since I live in the county and asked if any deputies were in town that could drive me home as I was stranded.

A woman came and got me. She sounded like Teeter from Yellowstone; I had to ask her to repeat herself several times 🤣🤣. It could have been because I was in the back seat with plastic between us with a little window, after being gently frisked-because…..

I received help from a young woman I’ve made friends with and my neighbor both brought me some supplies and my neighbor didn’t want any money because I’ve helped her mom with the few feral cats she feeds….

Grateful for Nora being here on planet at this time 💜, love in the world, good people, and community 💕 love.

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Thank you for sharing, Karen. I am sorry for the pain you are experiencing and send you my love.

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Thank you! It’s getting better!

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