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Mary D'Agostino's avatar

Hi Nora,

Thanks for sharing as usual! Your willingness to write and continue to explore all the dimensions of being human and beyond human, inspires me.

As you know I’ve always felt a connection of shared journey. I appreciate your courage and candor so much. Also naming what I’ve experienced too. Getting into new age spaces and then realizing the great dysfunction.

I’ve done that in the mainstream too. Trying to fit in, had to have my advanced degrees to really embrace my wisdom. Marriage, family, etc. playing the roles.

How am I this Monday? So free to be me. I’m still mom of five and grandma to 7. And I receive my guidance from many sources! Within- and in other dimensions! But unlike where I come from, I am not beholden to my roles. I am not enslaved to the dysfunctional structures I’ve escaped.

I’ve just spent a lovely time with two of my kids and their families in the Mountains and there is nothing like being me with them and cultivating real relating. We’ve seen our share of sorrow and pain and to be together in this way is the best! I am continuously holding ground in my healing journey. I so appreciate you and look forward to supporting you in whatever you will be sharing soon!

Love you!

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Helen Caroline's avatar

I love how you even include us in the process of your dysfunction or insecurities in the lead up to posting the scary thing, which feels like we get to come along for the ride with you. That's something I've been telling myself for ages... to include people in the process along the way, sharing as you go, instead of just sharing the "arrived at outcome" so to speak. And it's something I majorly struggle with in my own visibility journey.

I started my own substack a few months back with the intention of building an audience for my business, but something about that feels too contrived. I just want to write and post and the truth is, I don't want to do it for other people. Sure, I'm glad if it helps people, but I think more than anything I actually want to be seen. And all the stupid programming around you have to offer something to others and be of service and focus on your audience has actually gotten in the way. Like, no, I actually don't want that. I want to be seen and I want to share my voice and my thoughts and not make it about what may or may not serve others. I actually want to center myself and that's allowed and okay and of course that will still help other people in the process. And, even if it doesn't, it's still okay. It being about and for me and whatever I want it to be is enough. Disentangling the people pleasing seems to be a life-long journey too.

In my world, I just had my 33rd birthday on July 4th (a much more fun thing to celebrate than the US holiday). I'm excited for the magic number year ahead! 22 was a major year for me in my life, and, thinking back, 11 actually was too, so I have delightful anticipation for whatever the future holds!

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